Happiness

happiness is not a destination, it is about how you journey with the waves of life. Happiness is a personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it.You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings.And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it.You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.

we all go through bullshits in our life, no one is exempted. but pain doesn't stay forever how pain makes us feel and the lessons learned are the ones that stay. if you're going through some bullshits right now well i can't blame you if you're bitter and sad, but that's on you, only you. you are to blame why you're bitter and sad. happiness is always a conscious choice it's either you fight for your happiness or continue to drown in your own sadness, now you choose. it might be easier said than done, but you have to make your every effort to fight for what you deserve and you don't deserve any crap from that person who hurt you, they/he might not see your true value, but you should, you should know that you deserve to be happy you deserve to be treated well and revenge is not the best way to be happy. forget and let go of what makes you sad, do not depend your happiness on the temporary things, especially on people, yes we love to learn, and we learn to love others, but how can you love others when you don't even know how to give love for yourself? it's like what they say in every airplane I've been in, "put on your oxygen mask first before assisting other passengers seated next to you" i think we could all learn from that in the complexity of life. before you could love others we must first love ourselves. and that's how you'll find real happiness is in the core of your being, then you'll realize nothing or no one can give it you but you yourself, you just find it, it's there somewhere.

when you are able to let go of the things that makes you sad, you must learn to appreciate the little things, like for example, by simply waking up in the morning, not everyone is lucky to wake up in the morning and have another shot of happiness imagine the people related to that person, one day they're happy the next thing they've lost a friend, a lover, or worst a family. you can even find real happiness in a sip of coffee or tea, if you do appreciate the little things, the air breathe, and even just being able to smile despite the pain and hurt. i want to call that the gift of pain. everyday is gift, there are so much more than we thought we need for ourselves so do not waste your time worrying what could have been cause what's done is done, you have to move on with your life, and make every fucking effort you need to keep your shit together, no one can do that for you, just you. appreciate the people who helped you big or small, appreciate them. do not focus on people who loves to see you hurt, or people who always have something to say about you, because if you don, what sets you apart from them? nothing. so be happy with your little things, because there are no bridges if there are no bolts to keep it intact. all big things are made of small things, remember that when you think you're not going anywhere with all the efforts you've done, good things takes time. do not rush things that need time to grow.